Beyond Understanding

It is becoming more frequent for me in my coaching practice to have conversations with clients about their deep desire to be understood. We long to be understood. Ellen Degeneres says, “It is wonderful to be loved, but it is profound to be understood.” However, in a world where no two people are the same, […]

Are you are control freak?

I used to think that I could control everything around me and that everything was within my control. Not only did these thoughts serve me up plenty of stress and worry but also continuous feelings of failure and frustration. How much are you trying to control in your life? Is it your partner? Your children? […]

Get excited about your life this winter!

Each year I notice how people’s mood and energy seem to become lower as winter progresses. For some, the gloom of the winter weather can make them quite miserable and create a dark cloud that follows them around a bit like Eeyore. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) can impact many, to various extents, through being exposed […]

Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger

As many of you know, my kids leaving to their dads for the week brings me to my knees on a Sunday evening. I sink. I walk around like a zombie. I feel empty. I feel lost. I feel alone. And I put myself through this every fortnight. Ain’t that crazy for four years…every two […]

Finding the strength in my Feminine

This last week has been one we will never forget as New Zealanders. One where a darkness swept over our nation in the blink of an eye last Friday afternoon. Our hearts break for the victims and their families and we mourn their huge loss. We look to each other for love and support and […]

Being understood!

The more I do life and the more I work with people, the more I see how strong the human need is to be understood by others. That feeling that somebody really gets us and knows us is so comforting. However in this day, people make less of an effort to understand others and deeply […]

It is your life!

I know that I can have very high expectations of myself and many of you do too. And when I set a goal and I do not achieve it, I used to beat myself up a lot. I have set goals in the past in finances, in health, in relationship and I have failed miserably. […]

Be aware of who you idolize!

First up my apologies for this less than warm and fuzzy post and for the curse words used. I am all about surrounding yourself with a tribe that lifts you up. A tribe that you need to stand on your tippy toes to keep up with. This is important face to face. Finding people who […]

Anxious Living!

Anxiety is ruining my life! I need to always be in control of everything! I feel uneasy about everything! I feel like I should have it all figured out by yesterday! I get nervous about everything and I don’t even know why! Some nights I used to just lie in bed replaying the entire day […]

The Mercy in Tears

Have you ever noticed how adults apologize if they come to tears in front of you or other people? Have you noticed how embarrassed and ashamed people can be about the act of crying? Or how taboo the tears seem to be that the adult crying will show such disapproval of themselves and the tears […]